Friday, 16 June 2017

Admiral Young Driver Review June 2017

Admiral Young Driver Review June 2017




According to statics one in five newly qualified drivers will crash within the first six months of passing their test. In Sweden, accident rates plummeted by 40% when drivers had lessons at an earlier age. If children are introduced to driving from an earlier age they will gain more road experience. Road experience helps younger drivers to not waste their time second guessing what other road users are about to do, therefore they spend less time thinking and more time driving correctly.time. Most children spend at least 12 yrs in education during this time most of them will not have learned anything about road safety and awareness of the Highway Code and how to stay alive on the road. If schools teach road and safety awareness as part of the curriculum image how much this could help save lives.


Young Driver can help meet these needs until hopefully, it becomes part of the curriculum. Children age 10-17 (height 4ft 8 and above) are able to have one-to-one driving tuition with a qualified CRB checked instructor. The specially designed courses across the UK, have real, dual-controlled cars, and the students are able to learn the same skills as they would at the age of 17. Students first lesson includes driving, reversing, braking, steering and parking on a simulated road system with roundabouts, junctions, traffic signs and parking zones. Also included in your lesson is a personalised Drive Diary to record progress from each lesson. 



My 14-year-old daughter Skye took her first ever lesson and has shared her experience on Youtube, you can view it here. If you would also like your child's lesson recorded, Young Driver offers an in-car video at an extra cost, and I think it's a great memory to keep for their future. They also offer lessons in a Bentley once a student has had two lessons, and this would make a great birthday present for Bentley fans. 



Birthday parties and gift vouchers are also available, including lessons available for 5-10-year-olds in an electric car. My 6 year old would love this experience as he loves cars and I might arrange this for his birthday this year.

Young Driver accommodates people with physical and learning disabilities. Drivers can choose to learn in a hand control or automatic car. This all takes place at the weekends and selected dates during the school holidays. If you would like to find out more click here





My daughter's experience in her words;

"I arrived twenty minutes early as I wanted to make sure I had time to book in. I was excited but nervous, as I stepped out of the car I could see lots of red and white cars driving around a big car park. There were lots more cars than I had expected and this made me feel a bit anxious, what if I bumped into another car. I took a deep breath and had a good look around. The cars were moving slowly and the children drivers seemed to be fine and looked relaxed at the wheel. There were cones all around the large car park sectioning off areas to form a road system. As I approached the desk to sign in the staff were very welcoming and friendly. The lovely lady that signed me in took me aside and gave me a quick explanation on what to expect. I then met with my driving instructor who introduced herself to me, she was also very friendly and helped me to relax. I am a stress head and suffer anxiety attacks but I managed to stay calm. I was then taken to the car and when inside my instructor showed me how to adjust the steering wheel, seat and my mirrors. I was then shown all the controls and with the instructor's help, I had a good 15 minutes to familiarise myself with the controls. When I was ready I started the car, this took quite a few attempts but I got there in the end. I started tp feel very warm and nervous but my instructor sensed this and helped me to relax. Driving a car had always looked so easy but it was a lot harder than I had thought. However, I was enjoying myself and I loved the way the car felt in my control. In my 60 minute lesson I completed level 1 in my progress book, this included pre-safety checks and adjustments, starting the car, moving away, stopping and steering. I definitely would like to take further lessons and improve my driving skills and really enjoyed my lesson."



Parents and spectators are able to watch their child from hospitality areas. There was a big old bus serving snacks and drinks and there were also clean toilets available. My daughter took her first lesson at Birmingham NEC, there are over 43 venues in the UK and you are able to book 7 days a week.



I think overall that Young Driver is a road safety revolution and I would highly recommend.



Tuesday, 6 June 2017

8 Steps To A Clean Mind!

8 Steps To A Clean Mind!


Well, I don't know about you but the last couple of weeks with all the madness and tragedy in our world I have been feeling very sad and exhausted with stress and worry. I worry too much anyway about what might happen and the recent events have left me feeling even more anxious than I usually am. I feel like I want to keep all my friends and family close and hide them all away from the madness.

I need to clean my mind from the negative thoughts and give my health a boost. I have been neglecting myself lately and need to follow the below methods that have been helping me over the years. Join me and help yourself feel better too.

Negative thoughts, unhealthy mental habits, blocked emotions are all toxins that pollute your mind.



Here are some ways you can help clean your mind from toxins;




 1. Diet.




Help your gut by replenishing the bugs that aid digestion with a daily probiotic supplement containing both Lactobacillus and Bifidobacterium bacteria strains. Eat more prebiotic foods and help the bugs in your gut to flourish, onions, garlic, leeks and bananas help, if your digestive system is working you will feel less sluggish and more energised.

Sugar may be good for a short rush of energy, but if you want to beat fatigue, you should cut back and swap sugar for more protein. Lean meat, fish, nuts and dairy are a great form of protein, and filling up on the fibre found in fruit, veg and wholegrain carbs will boost your energy levels. Cutting back on sugar will help balance out your blood sugar levels, if your levels are balanced you won't feel the urge to snack or binge. The vitamins and minerals in these foods will top up your iron, magnesium and vitamin B levels and stop you feeling so tired and flat.

Remember, always try and enjoy your food, appreciate it, try to eat slowly and be aware of what you are eating and how it will help you!

2. The Power of a Shower

Allow your mind to be washed, close your eyes in the shower and feel the warm water massaging your brain. By closing your eyes you force your mind to tune in with your senses, feel the water running down your body, listen to the different sound the water creates when it runs over your ears, let your mind relax to the sound this will increase your mindfulness.
One of the keys to a healthy mind is being mindful of our environment. Every day take some time to meditate your 5 senses and let the fresh air into your mind. Smell something, focus your mind on the smell, your are opening up your senses and allowing your mind to relax. Taste or feel something different, listen to a new track, all of these things will open up your mind and increase your mindfulness.

3. Yoga



Practice Yoga, join a group and get yourself out of the house. If you have never done Yoga before make sure to find a beginners group, to begin with. I have been lazy lately and have not been practising enough. Yoga involves concentration on your breath and body, this helps to soothe your mind and relieve worries. By helping discharge tension and stress yoga poses and breathing exercises will keep you be free from negative elements. I went to my class last night and I felt amazing after and slept so well. See my yoga tips for help six-easy-yoga-moves and a-new-you


4. Meditation

Meditate with mindful breathing, this will help bring your body and mind back to the present moment. Focus on your breath as it moves through your body, this will help you clear your mind, develop focus and boost your mood. See my tips here on how to meditate what-is-meditation


5. Go for a walk.



Take a good mindful walk, out in the fresh air, get your body moving and your mind will move too. When you walk be aware of your surroundings, take in the trees, the blue sky and the sound of the wind. All the senses in your body will be working and all this fresh information will invigorate your mind. When you walk also concentrate on the movement in your legs, arms, the way you open out your shoulders, your style of walking and the way you hold your posture can determine a mental wellbeing. If it is sunny sit in the sun for at least 15 minutes a day, this will help boost your vitamin D levels. While sun exposure is your best source for vitamin D, it's important to understand that not all sun exposure will allow for vitamin D production. Sunlight is composed of about 1500 wavelengths, but the only wavelength that makes your body produce vitamin D are UVB-rays when they hit exposed skin


6. Declutter your mind.

Declutter your home, this helps to declutter your mind. I am very strange and find decluttering very therapeutic, even small things like streamlining your email, deleting old messages or photos can make your life feel a lot easier. I also like to keep a calendar of reminders and have recently been making a to-do list that helps me get through my workload without feeling overwhelmed.

7. Laughter.

Watch something that will make you laugh or spend time with somebody that is a bit of a joker. Laughter helps decrease stress by reducing the levels of stress hormones such as cortisol, epinephrine (adrenaline) and dopamine, and increases the production of serotonin and endorphins which reduce effects of stress. Laughter boosts the production of serotonin, a natural anti-depressant and will also help boost your immune system. I don't laugh enough so any funny film recommendations would be appreciated, just pop them in the comment box and the end of this page.


8. Socialising.



I have been neglecting my friends lately and have been staying in and watching too much TV. Being in a sociable environment and mixing with others is a good way to stimulate the brain, keeping it agile, active and young. My 14-year-old daughter babysat for the first time last weekend, just for a few hours. My husband and I went out for a meal with our friends. I thoroughly enjoyed this and I felt so much better after. Our brain needs exercise and challenges to keep it fit just like any other part of our body, research shows that fostering good friendships helps reduce anxiety and depression.

Above all else, the secret of being happy is accepting where you are in life and making the most out of every day!



Friday, 26 May 2017

The best magazines for children age 6+

The best magazines for children age 6+

I got to review 8 magazines for children age 6+

I have worked with children for over 25 years and currently work as a registered childminder, I have 3 of my own children and feel I have a great experience at understanding the likes and needs of children from a wide range of ages and abilities.




My first review is a brand new magazine called Sweet and this is targeted for girls age 6-10 years. I and one of the children I care for who is 7- years-old sat and read through this together. The magazine is bursting with cute characters, sweet styles, targets the importance of friendships and advertises the latest collectables. The content was fresh, cool and funny and included the latest trends, branded stationery and accessories.

Although the 7-year old girl I asked to review the magazine isn't very girlie, she still enjoyed reading and looking through the magazine and liked the free gifts that were included. The free gifts that were included were a nail kit, animal jam code, sweets and Shopkins cards.

Overall I think this magazine is perfect for #girlpowered girls age 6-10 years of age and I would highly recommend. If you would like to know more check out www.sweetmag.co.uk. Sweet mag will be on sale every 4 weeks priced from £3.75 and available from supermarkets and newsagents, or you can subscribe and get it delivered to your door.



My next review was Animals and You and is aimed at children aged 7-11-years. The pictures in this magazine are full of pretty pets and adorable wild cuties. I allowed 3 of the older children to look through this magazine and read it to the younger 3-year-old girls. The magazine is full of fun, facts about furry friends and helps readers learn about animals. The younger children loved looking at the cute pictures of all the animals so a younger sibling could also enjoy sharing this magazine. The 7 and 8-year-olds enjoyed the puzzles, quizzes and creative features like baking, craft and nature projects.

The magazine included some free gifts which were good quality, lovely cute posters, and also featured a celebrity and their pet. The children all seemed to enjoy this magazine and if your children love animals then this magazine would be perfect. It is on sale every 3-4 weeks.



WWE Kids Mag is the perfect magazine for fans of WWE and is aimed at children age 7-10. My son is 6 and quite mature for his age and absolutely loved this magazine and couldn't wait to take it to school for show and tell. He doesn't watch much wrestling but seems to know a lot about it from his school friends, he enjoyed the content in this magazine and was eager to listen.

The magazine has lots of posters, puzzles, wrestler facts and advertises the WWE-branded gifts. I didn't like the magazine as I'm not a fan of wrestling but I would certainly purchase this for my son as he really enjoyed it and it encouraged him to read and learn fun facts. WWE kids mags are on sale every 4 weeks.



Beano is a humour-based weekly strip comic aimed primarily at kids aged 7-11. I couldn't wait to read this with my son as it was one of my favourite comics as a child. I enjoyed the comic but he wasn't really interested in the comic sketches and stories and said he found them messy. He did, however, appreciate the humour and loved the jokes that were at the bottom of the page. He has never really been a fan of  Dennis the world's wildest boy and his best friend Gnasher and although he tried to listen I could tell he just wasn't really interested.

Some reluctant readers prefer to read comic strips and I think it is important to provide children with an opportunity to experience this. I think the magazine is perfect for providing children with this experience. This magazine is available every Wednesday and currently, costs £2.50.



The Official Jacqueline Wilson Magazine is for children aged 7-12 who love to read, write and create. My now 14-year-old daughter used to love reading this and it has always been one of her favourites. The magazine is based on the best-selling author Dame Jacqueline Wilson. Every issue includes an exclusive free gift and access to the world of Jacqueline Wilson. My daughter used to love all the arts and craft ideas with fun things to draw, make and do. This magazine encourages creativity and helps readers develop reading, writing and literacy skills. The magazine is written using a dyslexia-friendly font for easy reading.

I would highly recommend this magazine for its fun educational content. The magazine is available every 3 weeks and currently, costs £4.99.





My 14-year-old daughter has written a review on her favourite magazine Shout which is targeted for readers age 11-14. Here is her review as written in her words:

Shout magazine is NO.1 for you tubers and is great for teen girls who love a bit of gossip, laughs, inspiration and lots more. The magazine comes out once a month and always includes free goodies, along with some great posters for you to pull out and display in your room, only if you're allowed. Every issue includes posters of YouTubers and pop stars that everyone is loving that month, along with the up-to-date gossip about them to. There are always amazing giveaways to enter, like winning some of Zoella's beauty range or a shopping spree at shops like NewLook, Primark, Accessorise and more.

I don't just love the magazine for its gossip, horoscopes, beauty tips, fashion and shopping but because the magazine has plenty of pages full of inspiration. The little quizzes are fun to do with your friends and family and the inspirational quotes are a great pick-me-up. The magazine also covers important teenage worries and talks about anxiety, bullying, friend problems, body talk and relationships. I don't want to outgrow this magazine but then again my mum is 42 and I often catch her reading it when I have finished with it.

The magazine is such a great read that has picked me up on the down days that I have spent in the hospital with my Crohn's disease flare-ups. The magazine offers the option to have it delivered to your door monthly so you never have to miss out on an issue and you can get 3 issues for £5 along with an extra free gift which is a bargain. You have to subscribe for a year to get this offer so make sure to get permission from your parents. If you want to purchase your magazine monthly from a shop it currently costs £4.25. The Shout website www.shoutmag.co.uk is also worth a visit as it has loads of inspirational content and includes downloadable inspirational posters.





Epic is an awesome magazine for readers aged 7-10 and is crammed with all things children of this age love. My 6-year-old son loved reviewing this magazine and he shared it with all of his friends at school who also thought it was Epic.

The magazine is packed with the hottest TV and movie gossip, the coolest gaming news and reviews, the funniest jokes, the biggest YouTubers, top brands, explosive secrets and prizes. If your child is like mine and loves superheroes, LEGO, Minecraft, Footy, comics and puzzles, I would highly recommend.  Each issue comes with free gifts and is available to purchase every 4 weeks for the current price of £3.99.



My final review is 100% Gaming and is aimed at children aged 7-10. 100% Gaming includes all the latest game reviews and previews, YouTuber exclusives with Dan TDM, stampy and EthanGamer, game walkthroughs, Minecraft tips and FIFA cheats. If your child is a gaming fan like my son, I would recommend as he loved it and gave it a bid thumbs up!

100% Gaming is on sale every 4 weeks, includes free gifts and currently costs £4.99.

All of these magazines were sent to me to review, all thoughts and opinions remain my own.






Wednesday, 24 May 2017

Clever Tykes Storybooks

Clever Tykes Storybooks




I have had the opportunity to review 3 wonderful storybooks for children ages 6-9.


Change-it Cho






Walk-it Willow







Code-it Cody





I have been reading these books to my 6-year-old son at bedtime and he has been really enjoying them and so have I.

Each story is different with a different character in each book, but in each of the stories, the characters realise that there is something they are very good at or passionate about, and they set about making this into their own endeavour.

These books have been very cleverly researched and target literacy and numeracy skills for 6-9-year-olds. All 3 books include important characteristics such as innovation, independence, goal-setting; hard work and resourcefulness. 

Each inspiring character has been created to encourage a positive role model to children.
Children need to believe in themselves, need positivity, social support and a little bit of stress to enable them to see stress as a challenge rather than a threat. The books are very subtle at touching on all these life lessons. 

I love how all of the books gently introduce the idea of self-employment and thinking outside of the box. As a parent and child carer, I think it is important to demonstrate to young people that a challenging and rewarding career can be as an entrepreneur in a private venture, social enterprise or charity.

After reading The Clever Tykes stories to my son I feel that the stories can help encourage and inspire him to be creative, brave and innovative. His favourite book was Code-it Cody and I can honestly say that he has been losing interest in bedtime stories for the last year and would rather cuddle and chat. This wasn't the case when I read these books and he didn't want me to stop until the story had finished, this took me a good half an hour and I was surprised how well he listened. 

The books were too hard for him to read all by himself as they are for an 8-year old’s reading level, but he understood all of the concepts. 


If you want to inspire and empower your children to be the most creative and proactive young people they can be, then these books are perfect and I would definitely recommend them.

Clever Tykes books are being used in thousands of schools across the country and after reading them I can understand why. 

Thumbs up to Clever Tykes!

These books were sent to me to review, all thoughts and opinions remain my own!

Tuesday, 4 April 2017

How to control your social anxiety.

How to control your social anxiety.



This post follows my last two posts on social anxiety. It is worth reading both parts first, this will help you understand how you can control your social anxiety.

How we think determines how we feel, how we feel guides our actions, this makes our thoughts the first link in the chain. Our happiness and success are relying on our thoughts, but can we always believe and trust our thoughts? With so many different ways to interpret the situations that we find ourselves in, how do you know what thoughts to trust?

The answer is that we don't really know for sure so instead we need to evaluate the thoughts that drive our actions.

How to evaluate a thought;

Check the accuracy of your thought by looking for distortions. Remember from last week that the distortions are spotlighting, catastrophic thinking, social perfectionism, mind reading and labelling.

Examine what your thought can lead you to feel and do, does the action from your thought lead you away from what you value.

Imagine yourself eating your lunch in a virtually empty food court when a group of people that you know appear and join you at the table. You suddenly feel self-conscious, your stomach clenches, your mouth dries up and you lose your appetite.

Anxious Thoughts-"They are going to watch me eat." " I'll disgust them."

Distortions-Spotlighting, mind reading and labelling.

Feelings-Self-consciousness and shame.

Actions-Stop eating immediately by avoiding any social situation that involves eating.

Toward Avoidance or Values-Avoidance.

Turning down social situations that involve eating will leave you feeling less connected and more alone.

Take a look at a personal situation that makes you feel anxious.



Under these titles write down three examples;

Situation.
Anxious Thoughts.
Distortions.
Feelings.
Actions.
Toward Avoidance or values?

After this exercise, you can see that your anxious thoughts aren't necessarily true and they are making you do stuff that is stopping you from moving towards your values. Challenge your anxious thoughts with reasonable questions instead of wiping them out;

Catastrophic thinking: What is more likely to happen and how could I cope with it?

Labelling: Does the word I have labelled myself with apply to me all the time in every situation?

Discounting the positive: What I have achieved that was good?

Social perfectionism: Am I asking too much from myself? Do I really expect perfectionism from others?

Spotlighting: Do people really care what I am doing? Are they only watching me and not paying attention to anyone or anything else?

Mind reading: Have I really got any evidence that I know what people are thinking?

What distorted thinking does your anxious prediction rely on?

By questioning your thoughts, this will help you train your brain to face your fears. If you face your fears you will gain new experiences that will create new ways of thinking. Come up with a new coping thought and it will give you an alternative to the automatic anxious thoughts you've been using for so long. By facing your fears repeatedly you will learn to manage them and move on.

Take things in small steps like a ladder, begin from the bottom and you will get to the top.

If you worry about speaking in public, think of how you can achieve this by starting at the bottom:

  1. First practice prepared speeches in front of people you are comfortable with.
  2. Tell a joke to a group of friends.
  3. Read aloud in front of one person to start with, then two and finally three.
  4. Ask or answer a question when you are with strangers.
  5. Speak briefly in front of others as part as a group.
  6. Finally, you will be able to present your oral report and speak in public.
If you start at 1, with practice you will be able to achieve 6!

You can prevent your anxious prediction from actually happening by avoiding eye contact and rehearsing what you are going to say.

The key is to prepare yourself, make a plan, remind yourself of your values and what you want to achieve. If your plan doesn't always go exactly the way you want it to, change the way you managed it for next time. We all learn as we go along, practice makes perfect. If we never practice then we will never learn. Don't be afraid to make a mistake, we all make mistakes, instead, tell yourself that making a mistake makes you the same as everybody else. You are not different and you are certainly not alone.

There is no guarantee that your social anxiety will completely go away. You may still get days when you want to avoid situations that didn't bother you at all the day before. This is normal. Your level of anxiety, like other moods, can be influenced by a lack of sleep, menstrual cycle, alcohol, drugs and even by the food you eat. If you can identify what seems to make you feel more anxious, you can help yourself by regulating the influence. If you notice that you feel more anxious after a poor night's sleep, you can remind yourself that you will feel better when you are more rested.

New life events may trigger an increase in social anxiety. Write a new plan for each new event and practice your techniques.

My posts are based on cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and acceptance and (ACT).CBT focuses on the relationship between thoughts (cognitions), feelings, and action (behaviour). ACT is a type of CBT that focuses more on changing behaviour and less on changing thoughts. The intention of ACT is to find values and commit to actions that will lead you to live a more meaningful life.

CBT and ACT are very effective for all anxiety problems, including social anxiety. If you feel like you need more help in controlling your anxieties a therapist that is trained in CBT and ACT may be able to help. I would also like to recommend a wonderful app called Headspace Meditation and Mindfulness, this has helped me and my daughter lots.

Good luck on your path to success, you can master your social anxiety!




Wednesday, 29 March 2017

Social Anxiety- part 2

Social Anxiety-Part 2



I'd like to apologise for the delay with the second part of my Social Anxiety post. My daughter had a very serious flare up with her Crohn's disease and we spent a week at the hospital with her so I was unable to write.

Understanding your social anxiety will help you manage it and gain some control of your life.

When you face situations that make you anxious, avoidance is the action you will most commonly take. Avoidance prevents the thing that you are afraid will happen from happening.

Here is an example;

Sam is afraid he won't know what to say to Laura. If he hides and avoids her, there is no risk of this happening. It's a foolproof short term solution. The problem? In the long run, Sam never gets what he really wants, which is to get to know Laura better. He winds up feeling isolated, discouraged, and depressed.

Automatic thoughts, anxious feelings, and avoidance are the three links in the chain of events that make up social anxiety.


  • Thought
  • Feeling
  • Action
Let,s review Sam's thought, feeling and action chain in this situation.

Thought-I have nothing to say, so I'm weird and silly.
Feeling-Embarrassed and insecure.
Action-Hide, silence and withdrawal.

Thought-What are you afraid might happen?
Feeling-What are you feeling at the time?
Action-What will you do?

The thought feeling chain happens quickly in anxious situations, so quickly that it seems beyond your control. Does that mean you are doomed to a life of everlasting avoidance? Certainly not!

A chain is only as strong as its weakest link. Take a closer look at your chain reactions. If you can identify the links, you can find ways to break the chain. Look at what situations make you anxious;

Example:

Common problem.

You are within a new group of people and you all have to introduce yourself. The meeting is started by going around in a circle and introducing yourself.

Thought-When it's my turn my face will turn red as a beet.
Feeling- Everyone will see how anxious I am.
Action-You are anxious and embarrassed so you blush.

You are allowing your thoughts to distort your mind take over your feelings and lead to an action. When you recognise the distortion in your thoughts, it becomes easier to take them less seriously.

What's the worst that can happen? When a trigger situation occurs and your mind jumps to the worst possible outcome, even though there are a hundred other possible outcomes, you are using catastrophic thinking.

Think of a situation in your own life where you used catastrophic thinking. What was the worst possible outcome that you assumed would happen?

Stop discounting the positive, when something good happens to you, don't put it down to luck. When somebody praises you, stop assuming that the person was just trying to be nice. When you enjoy a conversation with somebody without being tongue-tied don't conclude that the conversation has only gone well because they are nice. It is difficult to develop confidence when you ignore your successes, when you discount the positive it will leave only the negative.

Stop calling yourself names, calling yourself names degrades you. For example, you drop your keys whilst trying to unlock your car, and you tell yourself your lame and clumsy. We have all made clumsy mistakes. Are we all lame?

Losing a game doesn't make you a loser. Suggesting a silly idea doesn't make you an idiot. Words like lame, loser and idiot are labels that don't really explain who you are.

Stop turning the spotlight onto yourself. An actress on stage doesn't watch her hands as she speaks her lines. She wants to lose herself in her role, not reflect on the mechanics of her performance. When you turn the spotlight of attention onto yourself, you become self-conscious. What should be a natural and spontaneous self-expression becomes an agonising performance. Spotlighting can make you feel very different from others. Things that you say may sound odd or fake, this will make you feel awkward and not like how you come across. You will start to feel like everyone else is watching you closely as you are watching yourself. If you are so preoccupied with what is going on inside you won't be able to connect properly with others.

We all feel self-conscious from time to time, but most people are able to notice the feeling and stop it from taking over, almost like flicking a switch to turn the spotlight off. Most socially anxious people dial the spotlight up, increasing their self-awareness to the point where they are paralysed.

You can spotlight what is going on in your body as well. If you are sweating, blushing or shaking and you focus your attention on that, these normal signs of anxiety intensify. If you are nervous and you notice your heart is beating fast, when you focus your attention on your heartbeat, the pounding intensifies. 

When you feel like you are in the spotlight you will also worry that everybody is thinking about you. You will feel like a mind reader and assume you know what everyone is thinking, especially when it is something bad about you. You haven't any physic powers so try to stop assuming that you know what people are thinking.

For the social perfectionist, there are only two categories, either you are fantastic, clever, witty, and popular or you are an outcast, silly, annoying and dull. Social perfectionist's feel like there is no such thing as being ok or good enough. If you are not invited to every social event then you feel like nobody likes you.

Stop setting the bar too high, stop feeling like you need everyone's approval all the time. It is impossible to please everyone, give yourself a break, allow room for error and stop being ruthless to yourself!

If you look around you and observe others you will get a more realistic view on how people normally act, nobody is as perfect as you think. You will learn by watching them and this will help you lower the expectations you place on yourself. Other people are not as perfect as you perceive them to be.

Try this exercise thinking about yourself. Close your eyes and imagine your wedding day in the future or a special birthday party for yourself. Picture someone that knows you, imagine what the person is saying about you at a speech. What words and phrases would you like to hear used to describe you?

The words and phrases that you imagine reflect qualities that are very important to you. They show how you want to be in the world. These are your true values. Write these words and phrases down. Your list can help guide you and act as a compass in your life. They can help you move in the direction that you know in your heart you want to move in. Move towards your values and not toward perfectionism and avoidance. You may feel safer if you move towards avoidance but it will never take you where you truly want to go. 

So this week take some time to think about some situations that have caused you anxiety.

Title your anxiety and pop it in the comment bar below. I can then show you how to try and deal with your anxiety with methods in next week's post. Include your thoughts (what were you afraid might happen?), feelings (what were you feeling at the time?) and action's (what did you do?).

I will not include your name and will only use as an example.

Hope this had helped you understand more about your anxiety and please remember that you are not alone, there are more people that suffer from anxiety than people who don't!


Saturday, 25 March 2017

Wikaniko's Organic Moringa Oil

Wikaniko's Organic Moringa Oil




I have been lucky enough to review a wonderful natural age defying oil called Moringa oil. I have been testing the product for 3 weeks and can already see and feel the benefits of this wonderful product. The real test was last week when I spent the whole week with my very sick daughter in the hospital. I was sleep deprived, stressed and wasn't able to get outside for some fresh air. My skin would normally suffer terribly under these conditions but I used the oil twice a day and my skin looked healthy and on the outside, I looked fine.


I have combination skin and I was a bit reluctant to try this oil because when I use oil based products I usually break out in spots. Stress also makes me break out in spots and last week was an extremely stressful week! So far I have had no spot breakouts and my skin feels soft, full of elasticity and has a healthy glow. The oil has been amazing and helped my skin feel energised and protected my skin from the hospital heating. I shall definitely be purchasing more for myself and I would highly recommend. The bottle has a pump and you only need a few drops so it will last for ages making it an affordable product.



Wikaniko's organically grown Moringa oil is produced on their own farm in Spain. Only fresh green leaves are used in Wikaniko products with the whole process overseen and inspected by the company owners. They are so confident with their wonderful products that they welcome all their distributors to visit the farm at any time to verify their diligent process. Using no pesticides or fertilisers in the growth of their trees you can rest assured that the oil is organic.

During the process for this wonderful oil, the leaves are turned into a powder by hand using clean osmosis treated water to wash the vegetation. The leaves are then stripped from the stalks by hand to ensure that machine contamination is avoided. The leaves are then air dried naturally and placed into a dehydrator to kill any remaining pathogens before being turned into powder. Each batch of the Moringa is then analysed in an independent laboratory.

There are so many different types of Moringa products available to buy but be very careful and make sure to purchase from a reputable company. You need to make sure you find out where the Moringa oil originates from, how it is produced and what steps are taken when it is turned into powder. If you don't get the organic formula you will be wasting your money and be risking your skin.

Moringa is normally grown in the Far East, extracted from the seeds of Moringa from the drumstick, horseradish, ben oil or benzoil tree. With high amounts of behenic acid, the oil is used for a number of industrial applications. It is great for topical use on the skin and the hair and is also a nice cooking oil with a soft, appealing taste.

Moringa oil is extracted by pressing the seeds of Moringa Oleifera. This tree is native to the Himalayan foothill and can grow long pods that contain nutritious seeds. The nutritious seeds of moringa leaves are superior to highly nutritious vegetables like spinach because they contain high levels of B-vitamins and Vitamin C.

There are so many different varieties of Moringa oil, depending on the variety of Moringa tree from which the oil is extracted. The difference in the nutritional properties depends on the location where the Oil is taken. As mentioned above be very careful where to purchase from as some Countries that it is imported from may be full of contaminants from the pollution caused by massive over-industrialisation, countries where there is no sanitation, no running water or no electricity.

I have listed the benefits of Wikaniko's Moringa oil below;



  • Antioxidant – strong antioxidant capacity 
  • Anti-inflammatory –reduces inflammation topically and internally. 
  • Anti-aging – nutrition to our skin that relieves ageing signs. 
  • Anti-microbial –purifies water and reduces bacterial counts. 
  • Disinfectant – treats wounds. 
  • Carrier – carrier oil for aromatic compounds. 
  • Hepatoprotective – protects the liver from damage. 
  • Emollient – moisturises the skin. 
  • Preservative –resists rancidity and preserves certain products. 
  • Exfoliant – drives away dead skin cells. 
  • Enfleurage –absorbs the aroma of essential oils and other fragrant compounds like herbs, nuts, seeds, spices and chemicals, making it a perfect perfume base. 


Wikaniko's Moringa can also be purchased as Moringa powder (nutritious superfood) or as capsules. The oil can be used for cooking although this would be expensive due to the amounts required, a cheaper way is to use it as a salad dressing.

Make sure you always consult with your doctor or a qualified health professional before you begin any course of vitamins or supplements.

If you would like to find out more about this wonderful product or would like to purchase it, go to http://EcoPeter.wikaniko.com/?redirect=moringa-oil-100ml.html if you type in MOR10 at the checkout you will be able to get 10% of your purchase. Hurry though as this offer is only open In March 2017.

I was sent this Wikaniko Moringa oil for free to review, all thoughts and opinions remain my own.